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About me

I’m a counsellor specialising in relationships, sexuality, creativity, and spirituality.

I work with people of all genders and I am LGBTQI+ positive.

  • Understand your patterns. Build relationships that actually work.

    Do your relationships feel difficult or unsatisfying?

    Do you find yourself trapped in repeating relationship patterns?

    Do you find it hard to know what you want, and communicate it?

    I can help you find your own way to set boundaries which support healthier, more sustainable connections.

    Early experiences often set the tone for adult relationships, and becoming aware of these patterns makes change possible.

    Helpful for anyone experiencing attachment issues, fear of intimacy, difficulty setting boundaries, or relationship conflict.

  • Explore your identity and desires—with support, not judgement.

    Are you questioning your sexuality or gender identity?

    Are you struggling with shame around sex, or trying to make sense of trauma or compulsive behaviours?

    Together we can explore your desires, identity, and boundaries in a non-judgmental space.

    I can help you understand what you truly want from your sexual and intimate life, and find ways to express that safely and confidently.

    Helpful for anyone questioning their sexuality or gender identity, struggling with shame around sex, sexual trauma, or compulsive sexual behaviour.

  • Reconnect with the freedom to create.

    Are there blockages that stand in the way to you achieving your creative potential?

    Do you find yourself lacking creative fulfilment in your life?

    You may have ideas you can’t seem to bring to life, or a strong creative pull that never quite turns into momentum.

    Sometimes old beliefs—about your talent, your worth, or whether your voice matters—can quietly hold you back for years.

    We can look at what stands between you and the creative life you want.

    The aim isn’t to “fix” creativity, but to understand the conditions under which it naturally returns.

    Helpful for anyone facing self-doubt, perfectionism, fear of failure, burnout, or difficulty making space for creative work.

  • Find meaning, heal old wounds, and make space for a deeper inner life.

    Do you feel a longing for meaning, a sense of inner emptiness, or confusion about your spiritual path?

    Are you healing from spiritual abuse or a restrictive religious background?

    I offer a space to explore or reimagine your relationship with the divine, whatever that means to you.

    I can help you find practices that support a more grounded and peaceful experience of life.

    Helpful for anyone feeling a lack of meaning, struggling with spiritual or religious trauma, existential anxiety, or a disconnection from their own beliefs.

Testimonials

“I have worked with Tom on several occasions and found him to be sensitive, insightful and really attentive to my story and situation.”

-R.S

“Tom helped me greatly with my issues around forming relationships in romantic and friend contexts. With his support I improved quite rapidly. Now, it is much easier for me to navigate social realm with satisfying results. I recommend him to anyone with problems in those domains.”

-P.G.

“It’s been a pleasure and Tom is a really talented therapist. I would recommend him to my family and friends.”

-F.D.

“When I first went to see Tom I couldn’t really make sense of my relationship, and it was a struggle to understand what I really wanted. Now I am a lot happier, and a lot less anxious. It was a great experience working with Tom!”

-R.K.

“As someone who has always suffered from a degree of anxiety, I sought help via counselling when the complexities and responsibilities of family life were making things increasingly difficult to cope with. The safe and non-judgemental nature of the sessions gave me an opportunity to freely give voice to my concerns, fears and disappointments whilst exploring ways to come to terms with these feelings. The counselling provided by Tom was a space in which I was able to find perspective and understanding of the emotional and practical strengths I possess which are enabling me to go forward and cope better with life's difficulties. I feel it has definitely proved to be an invaluable experience.”

- K.W.

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My Rates

I charge £60 per 50 minute session.

You can contact me using the email address below, or by using the form on the right.

hello@tomfryercounselling.com

We can then arrange a free 15 minute phone call, so we can talk about your situation and arrange an introductory session.
I offer sessions online and in person at the address below:
America Ground Studios
6 Trinity Street
Hastings
TN34 1HG

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